Looking at the title and seeing the photo display, you
probably have an insight to what I am going to say, but I will write my article
anyways!
If you are reading this, you have been hurt at least once in
your life. True? Yes? Both of the above?
Personally, I don’t think I have ever had an issue with
forgiveness. At least, not that I can remember. However, I have been hurt by
people and abstained from conversation or companionship with them as a result
of it. I have abstained both temporarily or even permanently in severe cases. I’ll
state an example; if I had a friend I trusted, only to realise the person
planned to kill me or use me to steal money or cause terrible harm, I could
choose to abstain from conversation with such a person permanently. My friends
are mine to choose and as I realise that person isn’t trustworthy, there is no
need playing in harm’s way. However, these kind of severe cases are not what this
article is written to address.
Movie Magic!
Today I talk about the subconscious script in my
head. I wonder how it got in there, but there is one and I’ll explain.
I have been thinking a bit on forgiveness and even though I don’t
particularly have a tough heart, one which wishes to dwell in unforgiveness, I do
have something to deal with still. I realised recently that, I have a script in
my head and it has had a subtle effect on my way of life and thinking. I have a
way certain projects should go, people should behave, places should look like etc.
and when that script is altered (Note, reality can simply be reality) I don’t find
it funny. This means that people can hurt me by doing what was sincerely the
right thing to do in their perspective but it hurts because that isn’t
reflective of what I have got in my head! Funny as it sounds, a lot of us are
hurt today for the same reasons and if we can simply open up and try to look at
things a little bit from the other person’s point of view, we realise they had
pure intentions and did the best they could do either given the information
they had or given the knowledge they have of you or of the subject matter. They
may be treading carefully not to hurt you but did the exact opposite while
trying. Then again, this person is simply sincerely wrong and it isn’t a bad
thing and it’s no disease. Communication will clear or straighten things out
here. I must warn you, it’s easier written than experienced so please take some
patience along with you when going for that conversation.
I should add here that if this happens in the work place; let’s
say ideas are being pooled for a particular assignment, and you have a structure
in your head but the ideas you are hearing from team mates are nothing like
what you have planned, do well to lend a listening ear. Nobody said your script
cannot be improved my darling!
Now unto my best part! Like I said earlier, not that I have
a tough heart or a forgiveness issue, however, my script is soo detailed! It
not only contains how I feel people should behave, it also contains some form
of repentance mechanism and/or remorse disposition for the offender. I have the
entire dialogue typed, printed and spiral bound in my head or the level of
remorse the individual must express so that my forgiveness process is made easy
and movie worthy.
In prayer today, I looked at the cross and how much begging
would have been script worthy for Jesus to pay our price. I tried to imagine if
I was to pay the price for a friend’s sin and the price was exactly what Jesus
paid for mine. What amount of begging will be sufficient? Even if this friend
of mine brought his entire family and clan, would I be strong enough to pay the
price still? Okay let’s say I agree out of so much pressure (Slim chances here)
After going through the beatings Jesus went through, it’s enough for me to say “No
thanks, I am not helping again” Then run off to go nurse my wounds. But Jesus
paid my price, we could never have begged him enough to die but he did. More
so, the people alive at Jesus death, did not even attempt acting according to
the script I might have wanted. If I were Jesus, I would have liked that the
people who were there at least followed me saying “Thank you for paying my
price” or “I could never have done this without you” or “I cannot wait to tell
the world of your love” or “I thank God for the glory ahead” but no! Instead
they shouted “Crucify him” *face slam*
But HE paid my price anyways and when He rose I arose with
him, I was dead in sin but now, I am alive in Christ and dead to sin. I am a
new creation. Hallelujah! Thank God He did.
Now haven examined that fact, I decided I am gonna try and
put this picture before me when next the dearly beloved around me doesn’t act
according to script! I am going to love anyways and love always. I will forgive
because Love is who I am not what the other person does or does not do.
You are eternally loved!
xoxo
